CL: The reason why I signed up for the course was not because we were having huge problems in our marriage. I wanted to invest in my marriage and build my marriage on God’s Word. We all know that we are supposed to put God first, our spouse 2nd, our children 3rd, our work 4th and etc. However there are many days that we find it the other way around. I prayed that God will help us – to provide us with the time and strength; and to make use of the course to show His mighty works.
Over the 8 sessions, we learnt and recap biblical principles for marriage, which also apply to other aspects of our lives. The time that we set aside to do homework became a refreshing time for both of us to review and renew our understanding of each other. The sharing and testimonies within the group were always so edifying. We heard of how our Father works in each other’s marriages and lives. It again reminded us how much we would have missed not having an intimate relationship with Him. Indeed our facilitators were right in what they said – that the Holy Spirit is our teacher. As we relate to one another, God used our times together to sharpen us just as Proverbs 27:17 said “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another ”.
Now, my beloved executes his spiritual leadership role at home with a renewed passion. He leads the family in devotion and prayers. This has inspired our sons as they see their father as the role model. We have benefited from the course. We thank God for answering our prayers.
(CL has been married to CK for 14 years)
It has been an exciting yet painfully truthful journey for the past 3 months. The course has helped me tremendously by introducing the principles of marriage in the Word of God. At the end of the course, we were a little saddened that we would not be able to meet our fellow course mates, with whom we shared our experiences, as often. We are all, however moving towards a better understanding of ourselves and our spouses.
A truly amazing time…
Cedric & Wendy
(Married 12 years)
Tang Jiao: The course, Building Marriage on his Words (BMW), drew me closer to God. As a new Christian, I felt just attending Sunday worship service was inadequate for me. Last year, I felt a little bit alone as my husband was not a Christian then. When I found out about this course in the Wesley Weekly, I encouraged my husband to sign up.
In the course, we learnt God’s word for couples. Under God’s guidance, we began to know and understand each other more. God also gives us strength in all aspects of life and work. Because of my work, I spent too little time with my husband. Through the course, we could at least spend a whole afternoon with God together. My husband got to know more about God. Now he likes to pray with me and often reads the Bible. Before this, he liked to read the newspapers after dinner. Now, the newspaper is replaced by the Bible. All glory to God! Recently, he accepted Jesus as his only Savior. That day, I was very happy and even joked with him that, “from today, you are my brother, I am your sister”.
Robin Xiang Weizheng: This course also helped us learn to be more tolerant of each other’s habits. During the sharing with other couples in our group, my wife realised that many men are like me. She gradually stopped complaining about me. Instead she now helps me to overcome my weaknesses. This course helped both of us to get closer to God. Both of us are now growing in the Holy Spirit.
(Both Tang Jiao and Robin have been married a year)
We want to thank God for directing us to this course. His timing was perfect and we were both drawn by God back into His Word. With the tight schedule (in our lives), our communication was mainly related to “things to do”. For the last two years, we argued over small issues, often over the methods of doing household chores. We recognised our issue and committed to God in prayer.
By God’s grace, He provided us with the marriage enrichment course over 8 sessions where we committed to set aside time for 12 weeks to learn God’s principles for marriages. The course was a great help. Doing homework together created time and space for both of us to set aside to discuss and complete it. We found joy in doing the homework although time was short. As we shared, we began to have a much better of understanding each other.
This homework enabled us to share and discuss issues and to communicate once again, following God’s principles. We learn through doing and experienced God’s transforming grace in the process. It has restored our marriage and as we continue to apply what we have learned, we know that by God’s continued grace, it will strengthen and enrich our marriage further.
In this course, God taught us that marriage is holy and sacred. Oneness is also very important and we should treasure it. It also highlighted the biblical principle of our roles in God’s perspective. We thanked God for showing us the truth.
In conclusion, this marriage enrichment course has brought us back to the basic foundation of God’s Word and had aligned our hearts in oneness.
To God Be The Glory!
Tobiah & Siang Siang
(Married 26 years)
From this 8-week course, we have learnt that man cannot change man, i.e. a woman cannot change her husband and neither can a man change his wife by his/her own effort. God has to be included in the relationship for any lasting and positive changes.
In our family, God is ever present. However, we have, through our busyness, put Him on the top shelf. It’s a prominent place where we can see him and we remind ourselves each day we need to get closer to him. But we make little effort and neglect our priorities. He’s gotten dusty where we have put Him. We have to take Him down from the shelf and treat Him as a Member of our family. He has to sit with us at the dinner table, eat with us and cohabit with us. We have to include Him in our conversations and our relationships. He is to be our sixth member in our family and the most important Person. It’s easy to say this but to actively and consciously include our Lord into our daily activities took a conscious and deliberate effort.
We are thankful that the BMW course provided the path for us to communicate with God as the third party to our relationship. Initially, it was a little awkward having a third party present in a husband/wife union, but the Holy Spirit made it so simple after a few tries (like praying together; talking about what the Lord would desire for us to do; like doing quiet time together) that this seemed so natural. This tripartite union of ‘God-husband-wife’ is really the planned relationship of a marriage. The homework required during the course helped us to work towards developing a relationship with God as husband and wife. It was an eye-opener because we now can communicate with God in a way which the Bible puts so succinctly: ‘One-flesh and GOD’.
Ser Boon & Olivia
(Married 16 years)
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